As we stated in our previous article, verbal communication is extremely important. But so are other forms of communication.
Like written communication, as well as body language and non verbal communication. For example, non verbal communication is more than 93% of all communication, according to this study.
So here’s 10 tips for properly communicating.
One of the biggest mistakes when it comes to miscommunication is speaking too fast. When your pronunciating each word, you should be speaking at a little less than 100 words per minute. At least that’s what’s ideal. If you’re speaking too fast, and yes you want to get your point across as quick as possible because peoples attention spans are shorter than ever in our digital age, But you still need to make sure that you speak slowly enough to the point where people can understand you. There is always a fine balance between too slow because you don’t want to talk like you’re from the 1950s which average 50 words per minute. But you also don’t want to talk so fast to again, where no one can understand you you sound like a high school valley girl.
Be aware of your body language
Since we know that nonverbal communication and body language is a form of communication, we want to be very very aware of how we present ourselves with our body language. What are our body is saying when we’re talking? Are we tense and tight in our shoulders? That will give the impression that you’re very nervous. Or are you calm and relaxed? You can definitely present your body that way and yes it can take practice and It can definitely improve with practice, and that’s a some of the things we offer in our training with our clients, is being aware of your body language and how to improve it to improve your communication skills.
Another tip for communicating properly is speaking clearly. Ask yourself am I actually saying each word that I mean to say? Or am I mumbling? I find myself often times even though I am a speech and communications expert, not speaking clearly enough. I know what I want to say, but my client/customer doesn’t necessarily know what I want to say. So it’s absolute sensor that you properly enunciate each word so that your perspective audience can fully understand you by speaking clearly and slowly like we stated earlier.
Speaking intentionally means that you’re speaking with passion and speaking with the purpose. Do you mean what you’re going to say? Are you meaning what you’re saying is what I mean to say. Do you understand that? People can tell when you’re not passionate. You just go through the motions. And it doesn’t inspire anyone. To be an effective communicator, you want to have passion. You want to have a zeal. You want to have excitement in your voice. You want to speak with a certain amount of intention that is going to allow you to captivate your audience and get done what you want to get done through your verbal and nonverbal communication.
In most cases speaking calmly comes along with speaking intentionally, speaking clearly, speaking slowly, at least slowly enough for people to understand you to call me enough appropriate to the situation.
How do you speak calmly? You guessed it. You definitely want to practice it. you have to overcome a certain amount of fear if you’re going to speak calmly especially if you’re going to speak in front of people. According to a recent survey
people had a greater fear of public speaking and they did of death. That means people would rather be in the coffin and give the eulogy LOL . I know that’s crazy but it’s true. And really overcoming the fear that you have a public speaking and to speak calmly while you’re speaking publicly or even privately, it just takes practice. Doing the right things over and over and over again. With the right coach, and the right methodology, you’re definitely able to speak clearly as another tip to properly communicate.
Look the other person in the eye
One of the biggest mishaps in communication is looking down,looking away, and not looking into the eyes of your prospects. This doesn’t apply to all cultures, but you should look each person in the eye-in some Asian cultures is actually disrespectful to look at a person in the eyes. But in the West is a sign of confidence and it’s a sign of respect. If you get nervous when looking at another person and I it’s probably because what you’re saying isn’t true. So make sure that you’re truthful honest and have integrity and you should have no problem looking another person in the eye.
Make sure to breathe
This simple tip is so easy but it is so many times over looks. When people are nervous tents or stressed, they tend not to bring regularly. This can have all kinds of ramifications for not being able to properly communicate. How do we work on this? Again it comes with practice and there are a few exercises that you can do in order to improve your breathing patterns when you are speaking and trying to communicate properly. If you are nervous and tense, your breathing patterns will be off and your speech and verbal communication will be very very choppy. And you won’t be able to get your message across. So it is highly recommended that you have your breathing in order before you start to work on probably anything else in communication. You can go days without food and water but you can’t go to minutes without air. So make sure that your air is right here Brett breathing is right and that you are constantly practicing on a consistent basis.
Pause at the right time
Communication isn’t all about talking, a lot of times it’s about pausing at the right time. Just like any beautiful musical masterpiece, the art of verbal communication is essential to pause at the right time. You should definitely pause in between each sentence. And sometimes pause for more than one second in between these longer sentences, so that you can get your point across to people. What are you talking to a large group, or you’re just talking to an individual talking to yourself in your head it’s important that you pause the right time.
Don’t shift your weight side to side
Shifting your weight side to side can really be a detriment to your communications effectiveness. I can’t tell you how many times that I’ve personally struggled with this. If you don’t know if you swing side to side or not when speaking, just tell me yourself on a quick speech and will see you right away how many times you actually sway back-and-forth. Again the only way to correct this is with practice and repetition. Remember the perfect practice makes perfect, and it simply going to the motions isn’t going to do much for anyone.
A strong solid tall posture is going to help you get your message across more effectively. It’s going to help you be a better communicator. Somebody that slouched over, and it doesn’t seem like they have much energy isn’t going to be as effective as somebody that can be standing tall in front of the podium or even in front of another individual. There are certain exercises that you can do and I love this website that shows all kinds of form and technique for postural exercises and how to stand tall when you’re attempting to deliver an amazing speech or again, to just speak one-on-one was a child, a spouse, family member, or friend.